The Authentic You Knows How To Heal. A lot of people ask me what the word Namaste means. When I tell them in the most simplest terms that it means, "The Divine in Me Honors the Divine in You" some wonder, why I would name an outpatient program that heals trauma and intimacy disorders such a name. After all, it is hard to spell, difficult to pronounce, and can be confusing, right? Why not call my program something like "Center for Healthy Relationships"?
You are perfect as you are....
How often have you felt like you are not enough, aren't doing enough, don't have what you want; your life is not "perfect"? How often do you beat yourself up because of your past choices, your current situation, because you aren't social enough, aren't educated enough, don't have the right car, house or job, or relationship? How often do you perseverate on your traumatic past or fear your unknown future?
It is not about YOU. Are you taking things too personally?
Do you find that you have a habit of taking things personally? Do you feel like people's anger, frustration, concerns are a direct result of you or something you did? Do you often feel like you are walking on eggshells with someone you love, your co-workers, even strangers or passers-by?
There is a reason for everything. All things are divine.
Last Monday, I received a call from my mom's nursing home. They informed me that they were taking her to the emergency room due to a serious infection. I received phone call after phone call from different medical professionals explaining various things to me from the reasons why she was going to the hospital, to me consenting to her being treated.
American culture has a lot of anger implicit in it's sexuality; often, sex and anger get confused. Many male and female sex addicts often score high on at least one of the 4 scales of Eroticized Rage on the Sexual Dependency Inventory-4 (SDI-4). When I bring this to their attention, many are surprised. Most say, "But I am not angry." What is often misunderstood about the word eroticized rage is that it doesn't necessarily show up as someone violently acting out sexually on another person (for some individuals, those that are sex offenders, this may actually be the case, however). On the contrary, it is often more subtle.
