Intimate betrayal can take on many forms, the most common one being "cheating." As an esteemed colleague once said to me so poignantly, it is not so much about the "cheating on" that is painful, as it is the "cheating out of" that hurts. Partners of a spouse who cheats via an affair with another person, substance abuse, financial betrayal, workaholism, are cheated out of what and whom they thought they were committing to: an honest, loving, faithful person who they could trust. They are cheated out of a life they had hoped and dreamed of, cheated out of future plans, especially if their loved one refuses to get help or get better.
I recently read a case where a man plead guilty to burglary and a "sexually directed" crime. Apparently, the sexual part of the crime was that he stole pair of underpants. While he did not have any contact with the person that owned the underwear (he stole them from the house he burglarized), at one point he wore the underpants. Police arrested him after he admitted to wearing the underpants;however, he stated that he never masturbated with the underpants on. In the end, he was convicted of a sex offense and sent to prison. The question that was posed related to this crime: Is he really a sex offender?
This morning I woke up feeling a sense of amazing gratitude. I want to share my feelings with you on a day of giving thanks. When I was growing up, I turned to music as a healing reprieve. It uplifted me in a way that I hadn't felt before. It became a healing sanctuary that allowed me to feel safe and at ease in my body, in my mind, in my life.
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection"~Buddha
When I was in graduate school, I was invited to interview at a prestigious Feminist Multicultural Internship site that allowed only 4 students into their training program per year. When the call for my interview came, I was in shock, so much so that I did not answer the phone. I didn't call the Internship Coordinator back!
With the holidays approaching, I have been thinking about Alice in Wonderland and the idea of falling down the rabbit hole. It seems that there are more opportunities for folks to fall down during this time. T'is the season, eh? According to Google, the definition of rabbit hole is: "...a bizarre, confusing, or nonsensical situation or environment, typically one from which it is difficult to extricate oneself."
