Whenever I travel, specifically, when the plane is getting ready to take off, I put in my earphones and play Adele's "Skyfall" song. Some may think this is a morbid song to listen to at take off; after all, it begins with " This is the end....hold your breath and count to ten, feel the earth move and then... feel my heart burst again..." But, for me, it is just the opposite.This last time traveling, as we began taxiing down the runway, I put in my earphones, turned on "Skyfall", and a recent memory came to mind. It was so vivid, I cried...
My dad recently came to see my office for the first time in 5 years. The last time he came to see where I worked, I worked for someone else. So the day he came to see what I have created was a big deal. As we stood in one of the group rooms looking out onto the Wasatch Front, he smiled and said, "So, do you ever let yourself enjoy how far you've come?" I wasn't sure I heard him, so I asked him, "What was that?" He repeated his question.
In that moment of understanding what he had asked me, I was overwhelmed by emotion. I burst into tears and began to sob. In a shaky and emotional tone, I said, "I just want to say that it means the world to me that you came to see my office." I repeated this statement over and over as I cried uncontrollably, looking down at the floor, like a nervous little girl.
My dad reached out and hugged me as he does, reminding me that I created something really beautiful by believing in myself. He reminded me that he too believes in me and always has.
HE ALWAYS HAS.
But the story I created in my head all these years was he didn't believe in me, so I had to work extra hard to get him to see how special I was. This was an illusive storyline created when I was a very little girl; I could see in that moment that it was not serving me to continue believing it. Instead, it had caused me to work way too hard all these years, and not let my inner child play enough. As my plane began to take flight, the song continued and my favorite part, the chorus, came on:
"When the sky falls, and it crumbles, we will stand tall and face it all...together... Sky fall is where we start...as worlds collide...where you go I go, what you see I see."
I realize people may interpret this song very differently than I do; however, for me, it is always a beautiful reminder that no matter what, no matter if, like in the children's book "Chicken Little" or Adele's song, if the sky (our world) appears to be falling via losing a job, financial strain, addiction, a death, divorce, conflict, depression/anxiety/other emotional struggles,
WE ARE ALL POSSIBLE, MEANING, WE ALL HAVE THE POTENTIAL TO CREATE BEAUTIFUL THINGS OUT OF OUR LIVES.
We just forget sometimes as we each get scared, as our little girl or little boy inside comes out to remind us of something from our past that is unresolved and needs tending to. The beauty in all of this is when we get the opportunity, or rather, let ourselves have the opportunity to connect with our loved ones in a way where we can be reminded of our potential for greatness, WE SHINE.
As the weekend nears, let yourself reflect on the ways in which you have bought into a story about yourself and others that isn't real. Let yourself see if you can connect, or reconnect with this idea that you are possible. You are creating a beautiful life for yourself, even if you are embarking on a new journey.
Let yourself STAND TALL and know that YOU CAN FACE IT ALL with the support of people you trust, whether that is a spouse or partner, family member, friend, support group.
And as always, in case you forget, please trust that YOU ARE WORTH IT!
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